I Acquire A New Family Member

Youngest Son got married yesterday, so I am now officially a mother-in-law. I never dreamed that one of my sons would get hitched so young. I was 25 when My Liege and I tied the knot, and I was only the second of my group of high school girlfriends to get married. Anything under 25 seemed remarkably young to me for making that kind of commitment. Y.S. is 22.

But I have to say I’m thrilled! I adore my new daughter-in-law, and she and Y.S. are a perfect match. I pretty much sobbed my way through the ceremony, which was in my mother’s back yard. Y.S. and his new wife wrote their own vows, and it was incredibly touching. The stuff of romance novels, you might say. šŸ˜‰

How old were you when you got married?

Six Month Eye Report, Round Two

As some of you might remember, I first had laser eye surgery in December 2011. My left eye, the reading eye, was perfect, and yesterday I had another checkup that reveals the left eye is still seeing as wonderfully as it did soon after the surgery.

The right eye was not so lucky. The first time around, I had SBK laser surgery, which is similar to LASIK but uses a laser to make the incision rather than an instrument. I was one of the unlucky few who experience regression. Twenty-four hours post-SBK, I could see distance what they call “20/20 minus.” That is to say the 20/20 line was a little fuzzy, and I missed a couple.

As the months progressed, my right eye regressed to the point where it was reading 20/50, which means that what a normal person can see at 50 feet, I could only see at 20 feet. Which meant I had to getĀ glasses for driving and any time I wanted to see distance clearly (like going to the movies or attending a writer’s conference). The glasses brought my left reading eye up to speed. However, my distance right eye could not be made to see 20/20 even WITH glasses, which caused me some concern. I went for several post-op checkups before coming to the decision that I did not want my left eye to be doing all the workā€”reading without glasses and seeing distance with glasses. The right eye was just slacking off! So, even though I knew there were risks involved and I might wind up with worse vision than ever, I decided to go for touch-up surgery in my right eye. This occurred right before my birthday in January of this year.

The clinic intended to “lift” the flap created the first time around with a surgical instrument and then do the laser touch-up. During the surgery, it was discovered that because over a year had passed my flap was resistant to lifting. In some people, their flap can be lifted after a year. Not moi!

This was quite disconcerting, because I had been informed during surgical prep a few days before that if they could not lift the flap, I would be sent home and then brought back another day for PRK surgery, where they sweep off your epithelium layer (after freezing your eyeball) and then they would do the surgery. Thank God the surgeon, in trying to lift my flap, determined that the eye had suffered enough trauma and not to send me home, but to continue on with the PRK. Man, was I nervous, switching surgeries in mid-stream. This meant that I would not get the immediate effects of SBK or LASIK and it would take up to 6 months to achieve potential 20/20 vision.

That six months just elapsed.

I knew before I went in to the clinic yesterday that I didn’t have 20/20 because, if I do put on my glasses, which I haven’t worn in ages, I could see better through the left eye than the right. I suspected that I had just a touch of astigmatism remaining, and it turns out I was right. I have no idea if this touch of astigmatism will improve over the next several months or not, but I don’t care! I have accomplished my goal. I can once more see distance “20/20 minus,” again to say that I could read some but not all letters on the 20/20 line, exactly where I was 24 hours post-SBK in December 2011.

Apparently, I have never been able to see 20/20 out of my right eye, even with lenses, but before I went with monovision this was hard for me to determine. The strange thing is that my right eye is my dominant eye, which was why they didn’t make the left eye the distance eye. However, yesterday in the clinic, the doctor wrote a new prescription for my right eye for my driving glasses and I will be able to see 20/20 out of them (I don’t have them yet). So that’s a blessing! The only time I feel the need to wear glasses is while driving at night. I’m okay in twilight and in rain. In heavy rain, I feel a little better, safer on the road, wearing glasses, because then my left eye is up to speed.

I am so glad my touch-up worked! Whatever happens in the next five years with my eyes, right now I am enjoying the full benefits of monovision, and I don’t require glasses for reading, for the computer OR for distance. The only time the monovision bothers me is in that weird middle distance where the right eye doesn’t quite make up for the left. And this only bothers me when watching a particular TV that could stand to have a touch of a larger screen. šŸ™‚

Phew, what a relief. Some people don’t have successful touch-ups, and I am so thankful that I did!

My eyes are still quite dry, especially the right, after having two laser surgeries in fourteen months. I still can’t spend as much time on the desktop as I used to be able to, and I compensate by wearing yellow-tinted computer specs (no Rx, just the tinting to cut down on blue glare) and also working on my netbook and my iPad when I can. Plus, I still douse my eyes with lots of drops and have it down to a fine routine. I need some right now.

Overall, I am incredibly happy to be where I am with my eyes compared to November 2011, before the surgery.

“See” ya!

My Canada

They say a picture is worth 1000 words. In this case, they’re worth about 10 million. I love Canada!

After a very wet June, we are off to a great start for July. With a bit of cheating. These photos were taken June 30th. :) Isn't that a million dollar view?
After a very wet June, we are off to a great start for July. With a bit of cheating. These photos were taken June 30th. šŸ™‚ Isn’t that a million dollar view?
Allie swimming! Way over her head. Way to go, 11-year-old doggie.
Allie swimming! Way over her head. Way to go, 11-year-old doggie.
Go Jump In The Lake.
Go Jump In The Lake. Well, maybe not from here. It’s kind of far down.

A very wet, very contented beagle.

A very wet, very contented beagle.

The Maple Leaf Forever!

Happy Canada Day!

A Little Torrential Downpour

From BORROWING ALEX, which is set in Seattle and fictional Lake Eden on the Olympic Peninsula and which I’m currently editing and updating for re-issue:

“‘Hardly Noah’s-Ark stuff, Alex.'”

My heroine, Nikki, says this when her, um, companion (at this point in the novel) mentions the rain.

Later:

Nikki had been born and bred in damp Seattle. Normally she could handle a little torrential downpour.

I’ve always liked this line, but, being Canadian, haven’t experienced it to the extent that someone in Washington state or Oregon might. Or someone in Vancouver, where I have lived before. Or Victoria, where I have lived as well. However, nothing matches what I call the “shower curtains of rain” that fell one night as my family was driving through Oregon years ago.

My area is experiencingĀ a little torrential downpour right now, though not to the extent that was predicted. But it’s enough to really affect us, to make us go running for the gutters to ensure they aren’t cloggedĀ and everything is draining properly. Once or twice a spring, we’ll get a huge downpour where it feels like an entire week’s worth of rain is arriving within an hour. ThisĀ current deluge was predicted by Environment Canada as a severe storm warning, but we haven’t, in my area, had the thunder and lightning and hailstorms that might have hit other areas. So we are pretty lucky. We like to say, we don’t tan, we rust, because it’s either raining or it’s roasting hot. The temperate, pleasant temperatures…that’s what September is for. šŸ™‚

As I’m typing, the wind is picking up, which reminds me of being at the NINC conferenceĀ in October, in White Plains, New York, right before Hurricane Sandy hit. My plane was one of the last leaving the White Plains airport. At the time, I didn’t realize how lucky I was…because Hurricane Sandy was, as we now realize, a total disaster. Earlier this week, Hurricane Sandy was featured on The Bachelorette. Yes, I watch. Don’t judge! I met my husband at 18 and didn’t do a lot of dating, so watching The Bachelor and The Bachelorette is researchĀ for my characters. Yes, it is!

Seeing the devastationĀ that still exists as a result of Hurricane Sandy again made me realize how lucky I was to get out in time. And how lucky I am not to live in an area that experiences a lot of severe weather. We have forest fires every summer in B.C., but while there is damage that obviously will exist for decades (it takes a long time to rebuild a forest), we usually do not experience the lengths of devastation and the loss of life and a huge number of lost homes. Every once in a while the number of homes lost is truly devastating, but because most forest fires are created by human stupidityĀ (throwing a cigaretteĀ out a car window, not putting out a campfire correctly, or lighting a fire during the height of fire season when you’re not supposed to and then wondering why it jumps all over the nearest neighborhood, picking houses at randomĀ to burn to the ground), it somehow doesn’t seem the same as Mother Nature creating the havoc totally on her own.

I would rather live in an area that has forestĀ fires than an area that gets tornadoes or hurricanes. But maybe that’s just becauseĀ forest fires are the norm here. Tornadoes and hurricanes are not, so they seem a lot scarier to me.

What form of severe weatherĀ is common in your neck of the woods? Have you or someone you know been personally affected?

When something goes wrong in my life, I always think, “It could be worse.” And right now, as the wind blows and the rain pours down, yes, it couldĀ be worse. A lot worse. It could really beĀ a monstrous torrential downpour.

Excuses…and an Idea

The nice thing about not blogging often is that I don’t have 60 spam comments waiting for me to wade through when I log in. The bad thing is it looks like I’m getting lazy.

I’m not getting lazy; I’m just super busy with non-writing stuff and am just getting back into writing again after a trip to China with my husband, during which a family member had a nasty fall that eventually led to her demise. We made it back home in time to see herā€”thank Godā€”but I have needed time to grieve as well as support other family members in their grief, and now, thank God again, we are gearing up to a happy time. Youngest Son is getting married this summer! Also, a niece is having a baby. Yay.

As for writing, I am working on revising and updating BORROWING ALEX for Indie re-issue, and it’s going very well when I have time to work on it. I’m looking at a July or AugustĀ release, but I can’t get any more exact for awhile. I also have two other manuscripts in various stages of needing-to-revise or needing-to-polish, and I also plan to Indie publish those. Maybe one in 2013 and the other in 2014. Plus, I have my short story series to finish.

So, there’s lots going on, but behind the scenes.

Once June is here and a host of family obligations are behind me, I will try (note emphasis) to get back to a more regular blogging schedule. I would ideally like to blog twice a week, and I am considering making one of those days, or a third day, a post devoted to other self-published authors and their books. Nothing too fancy. I found when I hosted guest-bloggers that I spent precious writing hours working up posts and then trying to get people to comment so I could give away books from those talented authors. I can no longer afford the time to host guest bloggers, but I am thinking of doing a Monday Deals type of thing, where every Monday I would post covers, blurbs and links to a few Indie-published books that are either new or on promotion. I need to put some more thought into it and then get a lead-time going so I don’t feel inundated. Other authors do this type of thing on their blogs. For instance, author Lauren Royal featured one of my books on her Friday Freebies day not long ago. That is the type of feature I am thinking of implementing. It would still allow me to get the word out about authors and their books while also pointing my readers to some great ebook dealsā€”other than mine!

What do you think?

Gone, Gone, Gone, I Been Gone So Long

My last three posts about the Galapagos appeared while I was in China. I know, I’m tricky, scheduling them in advance like that. I couldn’t in all conscience jet off to China to explore smog and history and visit my son without finishing my Galapagos posts, could I?

We returned from China early, last weekend. A personal situation at home developed soon after we landed in Beijing, and the situation pretty much followed us around the country. We had a good time and met some great people, but if I did not have a full camera card to remind meĀ of the tripĀ I would almost think I hadn’t left home at all. In that regard, it was the most surreal vacation I’ve ever taken.

I’m glad we returned early. It was necessary and cathartic. And, in some ways, continuing. But such is life.

I have a lot on my plate right now before I can get back to editing BORROWING ALEX for reissue. In another week, I expect to feel more settled. Eventually, I’ll blog about China. Of course, I said in 2011 that I would blog about Newfoundland, too, and look how that turned out…. (Ahem.)